Well, also on that no-fuss tip...I came across this post by one of my favourite, no-fuss bloggers, Sharri Sweeting, who blogs at The Brisk Convergence. She's beautiful, recently BC'ed her beautiful natural hair, and has this no-fuss attitude about everything around her. Her post on taking a chill pill when it comes to natural hair care struck me, and I thought I should share. It's basically about how sometimes we get too wrapped up in the world of Natural hair, products, routines...what to do and what not to do, and how we sometimes go too far...or get sidetracked, losing the point of why we decided to go natural in the first place.
I must say, I sometimes get like that, but very recently decided to just take a chill pill. I have a few of those to share....
|Sharri post BC|
You’ve got to chill.
Lately is seems as though the Natural Hair Community (NHC from here on out. I’m on a netbook and this tight-ass keyboard calls for acronyms) has gone into a frenzy.
Everything is over-the-top yet absolutely trite.
When making my rounds around the NHC blogosphere, I occasionally try to imagine how these blogs might come across to black women who still straighten and have only flirted with the idea of going natural. I started doing this after someone mentioned to me how difficult going natural seems to be. I have to say, if I was still on the creamy crack, reading some of these posts and viewing some of these photos would put me off as well.
For one, theres the over-informing that takes place. Product reviews have deviated from practical descriptions of user experience to 6 paragraph break-downs of silicones and porosity. There is something to be gained by researching this information, but it’s not always necessary to determine if you like a product or not. This desire to become an expert on ridiculous details is a recurring by-product of the blogger age. I’ve seen it in the menswear circles, where folks justify purchases by breaking down the waxing process on a raincoat, and come across it in the selvedge denim circles where people debate the rivets a company uses. Yes these facts help back up a company’s claim to a superior product, but so does the simple act of buying it, and having it work properly.
Then there’s the ‘My life is now amazing!’ testimonials. As though their years spent straightening their hair was some never-ending crack-binge. As though they have finally become a decent person by growing out an afro. Sometimes it seems as if those who have gone natural can’t speak of the positive aspects without putting down relaxers. Can you imagine yourself with a relaxer reading these posts and not wanting to roll your eyes and suck your teeth and close the tab?
Tumblr, much like Twitter, has a way of developing vacuums amongst its users. All it takes is for you to follow 3 people whom someone you’re already following reblogs/retweets to end up with a single-track stream of information. I’ve had to cut my follows in half because 75% of the posts I was coming across were photos of a general aesthetic: the Native Tongue Movement-meets-Kate Spade-meets-Erykah Badu. Seriously folks: how many photos of a girl with a kente-cloth (Kitenge) ’50s housewife dress with a towering headwrap do you need to post? How many instagrams of a hipster girl with a Kelis-like ‘fro, acid washed jeggins, Jordans and plastic frame glasses must be reblogged?
My point is that natural hair is just another styling option. That’s it. You chop off the straightened part of your hair, find the products, accessories, and styling techniques that work for you and go. It’s as simple as that. It’s not a small part of a universal aesthetic, it’s not the gateway to a better life and higher credit score, and it certainly doesn’t require that you switchover to wooden jewelry and ALL-KENTE-CLOTH-EVERYTHING.
The less you make it seem like a complete lifestyle change and/or the solution to relaxed hair, the better and more welcoming the NHC will be.
Do we concur??