Songs I Like, with Sharon Nyaboe.

Wednesday, July 15, 2015

Just over a year ago, a lady, then known to me only as Karingaringa (now Nyaboe_) on Twitter reached out to me, asking me if I'd be willing to be the first in a series of interviews for an upcoming podcast for her blog, Soundscribe. She introduced herself as Sharon, and although things kept coming up that prevented the interview from materialising, we ended up being pretty good friends. We would chat quite a lot, almost daily about music, as I came to find out how much of an audiophile she is, and eventually drifting towards love and men, only for it to come to the fore that we had both been romantically involved with the same guy in the past. (At different times :-D). The said guy had left lots of hurt and pain in our lives, and our conversations about our experiences with him had us bonding much deeper as we realised we had a lot in common.

Her face is kind of perfect, yes? 

We shared the lessons we had learnt from our experiences with him, and deepened our friendship over our varied tastes in music; hers being spectacularly diverse and eclectic. We conversed about  film, literature, love and life in general, and we eventually ended up on a Whatsapp group that she formed, bringing together about ten or so of our friends, mutual and otherwise. The group was a blessing, made of such wonderfully diverse, intelligent, beautiful and spirited feminist women. Some of them, Sharon included, recently came together to create and contribute at The Wide Margin. Spend some time there for some brilliant illumination on African feminist thought.

One of the women died barely a month and a half after the group was formed, and we were left reeling. With time the group eventually suffered some seemingly irreparable friction, which I personally think was not so much because of a difference in ideology but in personality, and with what life is, we sort of just drifted apart and went our own ways. Smaller groups were since formed, some friendships were strengthened and some of us have not seen each other since. We don't speak much any more, but we do still bump into each other on the streets of social media.

About a month ago, Sharon reached out to me again, for the very same reason she did the first time we spoke: The podcast. I had observed on social media that she had gone ahead and finally done it. She started a blog called Songs We Like, and had hit the studio with individuals she believed shared her love for music and would have an interesting curation of gems that they listen to. So far she has had rich, entertaining  conversations with two filmmakers, Jenny and Mbithi, and two actors, Mugambi and I, in a series she has dubbed, The Creators Series.

I was a tad nervous about listening to the final outcome of our conversation. Sharon had sent me a questionnaire about a couple of weeks before with questions that were far from the usual, surface queries that a lot of interviewers ask. I could barely dive into answering them before I would break into tears or collapse into a sea of my thoughts for hours on end. She then got me sufficiently liquored up on the day of our recording, which was wonderfully facilitated by the lovely Benjy, and given that I had completed just over a month long hiatus from the tipple, I was a lot more unrestrained than I would have liked to be in retrospect.

Wondering what this lovely filter is? It's called the Konyagi Filter.

But, I must say, Sharon has mastered the art of delving far below the surface and peeling back the layers of an individual and what resulted was a conversation that, although open and honest, is not cringeworthy. That's huge because I can barely stand to listen to the sound of my voice, let alone the vocalisation of some of my innermost thoughts.

The conversation was mostly nostalgic, bringing to the fore memories of my childhood, my relationships with my parents, my sexual awakening (O_o), love, loss, and the spaces I find myself occupying in the world today. The musical selections interspersed within the podcast are masterfully curated by Sharon. Some I had mentioned and others, she felt reflected the energy of our conversation, and they did so perfectly. Those were definitely great little surprises that blessed me as I listened.

I have since beaten myself up for forgetting to mention more songs or not saying this or that, but I realise that that is where I was on that day, in those moments. That was where my heart and mind were and so I shall celebrate and share with you about an hour and a half of the space I was in a week and a half ago.

Have a listen to the podcast and let us know what you think.

Also, be sure to show her some love. Follow Songs We Like on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook for more on music and other conversations with other fantastic folk.



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